wedding planning

Weddings are changing… and so are we.

For 20 years, the Wadsworth Mansion has offered couples a beautiful, historic location to host wedding celebrations. It’s been a privilege to be the backdrop for so many memorable milestones over the years. In these 20 years, we’ve hosted weddings in hurricanes, blizzards, tornado threats, and even a recession. Every challenge has come with necessary adjustments and none more so than the pandemic we are currently facing.  After fielding many calls from couples who are looking for solutions on their now rescheduled, cancelled, or or yet unplanned 2020 wedding, we began to brainstorm how we can help the COVID bride and groom. And, as the saying goes, “necessity is the mother of invention”.  On that note, we are so excited to announce our 2020 promotional wedding packages.

 

These packages have been designed to adhere to all social distancing restrictions and are available based on what is permitted at the time you wish to host your event.  We are closely following all local and state guidelines and will advise you on your options based on what is allowed. We will guide you in your plans to ensure the health and safety of all who attend.


2020 Wedding Packages

 

Ceremony Only

If you are looking for a stunning location to host your intimate ceremony, we are offering our grounds for a small gathering to witness your vows. Choose from our sprawling vista, intimate tennis pavilion, or anywhere that inspires you! Tables and chairs are included, along with 3 hour access to the Mansion grounds for the ceremony and photos. We will also assist with coordinating vendors for floral decor, officiant, photographer, and music if needed. Other options you may add include live streaming extended family and friends, or arranging a congratulatory car parade at the conclusion of the ceremony! 

Investment:

$1,500 and includes access to the Mansion grounds for 3 hours, along with ceremony chairs and tables.

 

 

Micro wedding

Are you looking for a spectacular venue to host your intimate wedding celebration or elopement? We have designed a package just for you! The Micro Wedding provides you all of the fanfare and grandeur your wedding deserves on a smaller scale. We have hand-picked some of the best vendors in the industry to execute a flawless wedding from start to finish.  With up to 35 of your closest friends and family, host your ceremony on our grand vista, or in our tennis pavilion where climbing rose vines surround you. Guests will then enjoy cocktails on the terrace with sprawling views of the vista, or in our loggia with tall, arching windows that overlook the grounds. Formalities follow cocktails with the couple’s formal introductions, a first dance, and toasts. Then guests retreat to the beaux arts style ballroom to enjoy a delicious meal and dessert before departing. This package is available for Monday through Thursday or available weekend daytime celebrations.

Investment:

Package starts at $6,000 for up to 35 guests (plus CT Sales tax) Additional guests $50 p/person.

Package includes venue, ceremony, 3 hour reception, food, beer & wine bar, service, rentals, DJ, florist, & Photographer. Upgrades are available at an additional cost.

 

 

Full wedding

We have taken all of the elements of a timeless and elegant Wadsworth Mansion wedding and put together the perfect wedding experience for you! The full wedding package is perfect for the couple who is ready to host the wedding of their dreams with a streamlined experience.  We have hand-picked some of the best vendors in the industry to execute a flawless wedding from start to finish. This package is the full 5 hour wedding reception from ceremony, to cocktails, dinner, and dancing!  Host your ceremony on our grand vista or in our tennis pavilion where climbing rose vines surround you. Guests will then enjoy cocktails on the terrace with sprawling views of the vista, or in our loggia with tall, arching windows that overlook the grounds. Formalities follow cocktails with the couple’s formal introductions, a first dance, and toasts. Then guests retreat to the beaux arts style ballrooms to enjoy a delicious meal and following dinner, dance the night away on our terrace with twinkling bistro lights above you!

Investment:

Package starts at $11,650 for up to 50 guests (plus CT Sales tax) Additional guests $81 p/person.

Package includes venue, ceremony, 5 hour reception, food, bar, service, rentals, DJ, florist, & Photographer. Upgrades are available at an additional cost.

 

For a full breakdown of pricing, participating vendors, and more options, please contact us!

 

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Wedding Planning in Quarantine – Bridal Salons

We know that wedding planning can be a stressful time, and doubly so if it’s during quarantine. Fortunately, there are amazing people that are there to help. Everyone in the hospitality industry is doing their best to come up with solutions for couples during this time, and they all want to make sure that your special day is the best that it can be.

Bridal salons are no exception to this rule. If you’ve already ordered your dress, or have had to push back fittings, then don’t worry. Bridal salons are preparing to work harder than ever to make sure that your dress is perfect for your special day. Since a few of our couples have asked us about local bridal salons and ordering their dress, we reached out to a few of them to learn their policies and what they’re doing during this time. While they’re all closed for business until May 20, there are a few options for you to start your planning process for your dress, tux, or suit!

Jos A. Bank

Photo by: Elizabeth Grant Photography

This store has a great policy for getting a jumpstart on getting a tux or suit! They’re offering a card for at-home measurements, so that anyone who would like to start the process of renting a tux can do so. All you need to do is reach out to ask for one. You can also browse their wide selection online to see what sort of style you may be interested in.

Location:
Find your closest location here.

Bliss Bridal

Photo by: Alicia Ann Photography

After May 20th, Bliss Bridal will be making sure that their clients feel safe by limiting the amount of appointments they take. They’re already reaching out to their current clients, and have plans to have extra tailors on hand to make sure that your dress is perfect well ahead of your wedding! If you don’t have your dress just yet, you can request a look book from the salon to see what they have available for styles!

Location:
242 South Main Street,
Cheshire, CT

The Wedding Embassy

Like all bridal salons, the Wedding Embassy is closed until May 20th. However, they’ve come up with a unique solution for couples in the meantime! They’re offering virtual appointments to discuss options for gowns. Not only that, but they’re also offering contact-free deliveries of gowns for clients that have already ordered and altered their dresses. You can see their entire policy here.

Location:
1900 Watertown Avenue
Oakville, CT 06779

The Wedding Dress

Photo by: Sam Coba Photography

The Wedding Dress is working with their couples to make sure that their alterations are done in time for their wedding. They’re also currently offering a 10% discount for any bridal accessories purchased through them online! If you book a Sunday special appointment now for the future, which includes snacks and a bit of bubbly, then you receive $25 off.

Location:
162 Main Street
Portland, CT 06480

White Dress by the Shore

The White Dress by the store is closed until May 20th. However, they’ve also come up with some amazing solutions for couples who’d like to start shopping for their gown! With their TWD at home services, you can order up to three sample gowns to try on at home! You can find a full list of their policies here.

Location:
104 E Main Street
Clinton, CT 06413

We hope this helps you find your dream dress or suit during this time! While most stores may be closed to in-person interactions, there are plenty of online resources for you to continue planning your special day. As always, make sure to reach out to your own local stores to see what their policies are during this time.

 

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A Love Note to the COVID 19 Bride & Groom

To my dear brides and grooms,

 

This was certainly unexpected, wasn’t it?  It’s likely you’ve been planning your celebration for 12, 18, even 24 months and in all of your plans and details, I doubt a worldwide pandemic crossed your mind as a possible interruption on your way to the big day. And yet here we are – living through an historic moment in time that has forced us, all of us, to pause and wait -wait for this to pass, wait for the virus to slow down, wait for the world to begin healing.  But this waiting isn’t easy, is it?  It not easy when you’ve chosen a color palette that perfectly fits the inspo board you’ve meticulously put together, when you have a gorgeous wedding dress ready to be worn, when your  floral arrangements are designed and your invitations have gone out (or are about to go out). Everything you’ve spent months dreaming of is now suddenly on hold.  This is so hard, I know, but it will be okay.

 

Photo: Candace Elizabeth Photography

I want to assure you of a few things.  First and foremost, in a time when everyone is feeling isolated, and separated, you are not alone in this.  The wedding industry is a big, creative, and supportive community that is in the business of helping a dream come together.  We know there are so many moving parts to planning a wedding, with a network of vendors, and timelines – negotiating the logistics of contingency plans can seem overwhelming.  But one thing we excel at is making it work.  If you are one of our 2020 brides or grooms, you’ve already heard from us and know we are very actively watching the current climate of this COVID 19 crisis and how it may possibly affect your wedding.  We’ve also kept in touch with many of our preferred vendors to make sure we’re on the same page.  Even if you’re not planning a wedding with us, know that there are so many vendors out there who are bending over backwards to be available to their clients.  Trust the professionals to provide you with the guidance you need in all of this.

 

The next assurance is something my mother taught me, and her mother taught her, and is a valuable mantra I use all the time: this too, shall pass. As a society, we look for immediate answers and expect timelines with finite start and end dates, so this current situation with all of the unknowns is a new and challenging territory for many.  Add to that the emotional and financial investment of planning a wedding, and you may be feeling like the world is spinning off its axis. It’s not fair, and it’s frustrating, but it will not last forever. In fact, we’re already starting to hear that our social distancing efforts are working and we are successfully “flattening the curve”.  There is an end, and we’ll all be stronger from this journey and more appreciative of each other’s sacrifices along the way.

 

My final assurance is that I promise we will gather again, and we’ll  celebrate love, and family, and togetherness and it will be all the sweeter after this extended separation. If your wedding is this year, or you’ve had to reschedule to 2021, there is a whole tribe of people – from family, to friends, to vendors who can’t wait for the time when we’re all able to come together to celebrate your love and commitment.  There is a light at the end of this, friend. Keep hanging on. We’ll get through this together.

 

Sending social distance hugs and love,

Jessica

Director of Events


For those of you who have been forced to move your date because of COVID-19, I have some reassuring facts for you:

● 96% of couples say they are not canceling their weddings
● Among those postponing their weddings, 65% are moving their
receptions to a later date in 2020.
● The rest of respondents who are postponing said that they are shifting to
2021 (18%) or are still deciding (17%).
● Roughly 40% of those postponing their weddings are planning to get
legally married prior to their rescheduled receptions.

(The Knot COVID Impact Study)

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Customize Your Wedding at the Wadsworth Mansion!

Sam Coba Photography

When I first began working here in April, I had no idea that I would learn so much and meet so many amazing couples in such a short amount of time. During my time here, I’ve noticed something that I, and the couples love about the mansion: It can be customized to each couples’ personality. Each wedding at the estate is unique as each couple adds their own, personal touch to their big day. Just this year, I’ve seen a Gatsby-themed wedding, an autumn-themed wedding, dance performances and more! With a full wedding season at the mansion under my belt, I realize that the mansion is a gorgeous, blank canvas for couples to create their ideal wedding.  However, I also know that creating your ideal wedding can be overwhelming without a little bit of inspiration to help. That’s why today I want to take a closer look at some of the things that past couples have done to help inspire future couples for their own weddings.

Your Ceremony

Lindsay Vigue Photography

If you’re considering a ceremony on site, then you want to consider what “look” you want for your big day. If it’s a nice day, you can conduct your ceremony by the tennis pavilion outside, or against the roses in that same area (the blooms are normally stunning in June!). You may instead decide to tie the knot on the sweeping vista, or beneath the cedar trees to take advantage of natural shade for your guests; in fact, we recently had a photoshoot with Connecticut Bride that shows how absolutely gorgeous a ceremony beneath those trees can be. I’ve also seen couples opt to have their ceremony on the terrace, using the gorgeous backdrop of the mansion for some stunning wedding photos. With a smaller number of guests, it’s also possible to use one of the ballrooms to have an indoor wedding, or even use the Loggia inside. If your ceremony includes a baraat, many couples use the sweeping drive up to the house for the ceremonial procession.

Your Reception

Brooke Brady Photography

What you decide to do for your reception depends a lot on your personal style. Do you want to do a cocktail reception with games outside on the vista and terrace? Do you want to do a formal, seated dinner? Do you want to do interactive stations where food is prepared as your guests watch? I’ve seen every one of these ideas happen at the mansion, and more. During warmer months, I’ve even seen couples dining al fresco on the terrace beneath a tent. One of my favorite things that I’ve seen done at the mansion was a s’mores station, where guests could toast their own marshmallows before sandwiching them between chocolate and graham crackers. There’s something about an interactive food station that really enhances a wedding.

Your Party

After dinner and cocktails, it’s time to party! Many of our couples transform the terrace into their dance floor, and I’ve seen

Brooke Brady Photography

it turn into a truly memorable space with a bit of lighting.  This year, AMS DJ Lighting and Photobooth added some romantic bistro lighting for several weddings (you can see it for yourself in the picture!). I’ve also seen multicolored uplighting that creates a club vibe and gets the party going. With that said, not every couple necessarily wants to focus on dancing.   This year, one couple turned the Loggia into a lounge with games, and I’ve seen other instances of guests choosing to socialize instead of dance. Whatever you decide to do, your party is sure to turn heads!

The Extras

Perceptions Photography

I absolutely love some of the “extras” that couples bring to the mansion to enhance their special day. Just this year, I watched a cigar-rolling demonstration, complete with cigars to enjoy on the terrace (I love cigars, and had the at my own wedding!). I also saw some amazing photobooths with themed props, and I even watched a bride enter in a horse and carriage before taking her walk down the aisle. One of my favorite things that I saw this season were a few performers dressed as flappers and handing out glasses of champagne. One of them even wore a “champagne dress,” which was a huge hit! While you don’t need any extras for your special day, they add a little extra something to enhance your experience during your wedding.

 

No matter what you decide to do for your wedding, you’re sure to have a fabulous day. The mansion gives you a beautiful canvas to work with, and I’d be more than happy to show you what’s possible for your special day.

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Avrielle and Alex – A Stunning Wedding at the Wadsworth

Avrielle was the sort of bride that wanted to plan every aspect of her wedding, and the result was spectacular. She brought in furniture, worked on fine details, and emphasized decorations to make her special day something to remember. Blotting away a few tears while smiling during her ceremony, she walked toward Alex while wearing a gorgeous gown with a cathedral-length train. She then danced the night away with friends and family beneath the starry sky. Avrielle and Alex were truly a memorable couple, and we wish them all of the best!

You can see more pictures from Avrielle and Alex’s stunning wedding on Carats & Cake.

Photographer: Alicia Ann Photography

Florist: Just For You Floral Design Studio

Caterer: David Alan Hospitality Group

Music: White Light Entertainment

Ceremony Music: Arianna Strings

 

 

 

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NEWLYWED Quick 10: Rich and Kate – July 27th, 2018

  1. Wedding colors: Gold, Blush Pink, Green.
  2. Everything was planned by: Kate (her mom) and Rich.
  3. Favorite detail: Balloons tied to the white chairs on the back lawn.
  4. Ceremony location: St. Paul’s Church – Glastonbury.
  5. Most surprising thing: It started pouring right as our reception ended (weather held up!).
  6. Standout memory:  Rich – Kate walking down the aisle.   Kate – standing on the juliet balcony with my new husband and looking down on cocktail hour with our loved ones and friends.
  7. Would you change anything? Not at all!
  8. 1st dance song: Perfect (acoustic) – Ed Sheeran.
  9. 3 adjectives to describe your shoes: Rich – Black Tuxedo Shoe.   Kate – Suede; summery, and feminine.  Did you wear your shoes all night? Almost made it the whole night!
  10. Best thing you ate: Passed Apps – We can’t even pick a favorite!

 

Catering: David Alan Hospitality Group Photography: Joanna Fisher Photography Flowers: Eddy Farm CT  DJ: Lights Camera DJs Hotel: Courtyard Marriott Cromwell  Limo: Premier Limo

 

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LeAnne and Geoffrey – a Whimsical June Celebration

As we approach the beginning of fall, we wanted to take a moment to reflect back on a fabulous summer of wedding celebrations.  One wedding that really stood out for us was LeAnne and Geoffrey who were married on the last weekend in June.  LeAnne and her mother were both very involved in the planning process and were eager to utilize all the spaces both inside and out that the Mansion provided.  The decision was to host a cocktail style reception so that guests were able to roam different areas of the Mansion while a delectable selection of food prepared by David Alan Hospitality was offered.  The ceremony was held on our gand Vista, with cocktail hour following in our Tennis Pavilion.  Guest were able to enjoy drinks and passed appetizers while surrounded by our blooming rose trellis.  The party then moved up to the terrace for formalities as guests continued their feast while meandering the indoors Loggia and Ballrooms.  One touch we especially love was the creative approach of hanging fairy lights from our elm trees that frame the terrace. It provided a whimsical background while guests toasted the bride and groom.

We hope you enjoy a peek into what was a fabulous day!

Vendors included:

Alicia Ann Photography – Photos

David Alan Hospitality  – Catering

Green Dahlia Florist – Flowers

The Heartbeat Band – Music

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Plans for a rainy day

Every bride envisions beautiful weather for her wedding day, but the weather doesn’t always cooperate. Rain doesn’t have to ruin a wedding day—unless you are planning on tying the knot in an open field or on a beach. There are many ways to prepare for rain on your wedding day and make the best of an uncontrollable situation.

It’s best to create a rain plan ahead of time so you know exactly what you are going to do if inclement weather is forecasted. Not only does the plan avoid last minute decisions, it will reduce your pre-wedding anxieties because a plan is in place ready to be executed.  Here are some solutions to consider when creating a rain plan:

It may be possible to delay the ceremony for a few minutes if there is just a passing shower. Once the rain passes, the fresh dew on the grass and the wet air may create a translucent fog perfect for intimate photographs.  You might even get lucky with the appearance of a rainbow! Waiting for the rain to stop allows you to continue with your original planned ceremony site. You don’t have to change a single detail, you may just need to rehearse you vows for another thirty minutes!

 

 

Walking in wet grass can ruin shoes and even ruin long dresses.   Changing your ceremony site to the terrace can alleviate those problems.  With the lovely view of the vista as a backdrop and a beautiful floral arch as the focal point, everything will be intimate and beautiful. With the white resin chairs and a unique aisle runner to show off your style, no one will know that you moved your location.

 

 

Tenting the terrace is always an option if your heart is set on an outside ceremony.  You get the outdoor ambiance without worrying about getting wet. The tent is a beautiful accessory for a rainy day as it allows for an outdoor ceremony, cocktails and dancing, even in inclement weather.  Arrangements for tents must be made in advance. It is best to call rental companies to determine what lead time they need and what their cancellation policies are if you decide you don’t need the tent.

 

 

There are times when the only alternative is to move the ceremony indoors. One of the ballrooms can be utilized as the ceremony space for your wedding day. With the mantle and fireplace as your back drop or a gorgeous arch if you desire, everything will come together seamlessly. You may have up to 120 chairs for designated seating for special guests. The rest of your guests will stand around and watch the ceremony unfold before their eyes.  Saying “I do.” In the loggia is also an option.  The center doors can be opened and guests will still be able to view the vista.

 

 

A fun way to incorporate rain on your wedding day is to utilize umbrellas in your photos.  Coordinate the colors of the umbrellas to match  your shoes or your bridesmaid dresses.  Your pictures will look unique and the colors will match the rest of the bridal party.

Rain doesn’t have to ruin your wedding day.  Your family and friends have come to celebrate your special day, and they will be watching your smiles and not the clouds.

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Frock It To Me

Whether you’ve been dreading or dreaming of it, the time comes in any engagement when you have to answer the age-old question:  What to wear?  Considering that the obvious answer is “something” –– unless of course you’re on a nude beach somewhere (disclaimer: The Wadsworth Mansion has no beach, nude or otherwise) — you’ll want to think through a few things before deciding on the dress, the tux, bridal party attire, or dress code.

 

 

1.  How you want your wedding to feel.  You’ll be referring back to this one all the time.  It is the key to your wedding seeming cohesive.  Your big event should be a reflection of both of you on your best day   ever.  Decide what that looks like.  Season and location are a big part of this; long, lacy sleeves feel a little imprudent on the shore in August, n’est pas?  Once you select a venue and date, which should help guide your vision, you still may want to think of a few adjectives to fill out the daydream:  whimsical & bright, elegant & classic, modern & trendy, understated & unique, warm & casual…  Once you’ve given yourself a basic road map it’ll be much easier to say, “yes, I loved that sleek, barely-there satin number I saw on Pinterest, but y’know it just doesn’t fit with the wintry, happy, storybook vibe I’m going for.”

 

2.  How you plan to move your body throughout the day/night.  Despite the image you’ve conjured up from the picture-perfect, stock-still photos of gowns you’ve been drooling over since the fifth grade, you will be moving.  A lot.  You’ll be sitting, could be kneeling, oughta be dancing.  Select something that makes you feel like a million bucks and allows you to eat dinner!  Keep this in mind as you try things on, and then again as your fittings happen.  Jump up and down, bend over, put your arms over your head; having to tug/pull/adjust your wedding finery on the big day is a big no — your tailor’s job is to make you feel effortless regardless of action.
This rule also applies to shoes!  Make sure you can comfortably walk on any surface (and PRACTICE! Yes, you!!) so people are wondering over the vision that you are, not the over/under on when you’ll bite it or go barefoot.

 

2a.  How you want others to move their bodies throughout the day/night.  If you want your bridal party and guests to really cut loose on the dance floor, consider issuing them less restrictive attire and toning down the formality of the dress code.  If the effect you’re going for is a little more elegant than eccentric, remember that bending over to pick up a cornhole beanbag might not be the chicest (or easiest) cocktail activity.

 

3.  How individual you want the bridal party to look.  We are — thankfully — far from the era of matchy-matchy, one-note, prom-esque attendants.  Nowadays it’s acceptable to, y’know, be considerate of the people who’ve agreed to stand next to you and populate all those photographs.  Before placing the order on those shiny, cap-sleeved, mustard dresses and the matching vests and bow ties because they go with your fall scheme perfectly, think about the people who have to wear them.  Think of their body types, shades of skin, colors of hair… You want them to feel confident, right?  Maybe you like the look of similar dresses in complimentary hues. Maybe a patterned fabric in a bias cut will be the most flattering on everyone.  Maybe you want these dresses to actually be wearable more than once.  Even if you want them to be wearing the exact same thing from earrings to nail polish to shoes, you’ll still want to dedicate some time in deciding all those elements.  Do unto others…

 

4.  How you know your invitees.  Unless you’re some kind of royalty with a public ceremony (I’m looking at you, Prince Harry), chances are you’ll know all your guests.  (I mean, except for your fiancee’s Great Aunt Ermingarde who hasn’t left her neighborhood since the Nixon administration and is shockingly making the 3-state trek… although even she isn’t “a stranger.”)  But maybe you’re having a remote, intimate ceremony with just family, which probably invites less pomp and circumstance than a fete with 200 of your parents’ nearest and dearest.  Or, maybe you are having a grandly-scaled affair brimming with all your college buddies, which could make a “Creative Black Tie” dress code apropos.  At the end of the day, your guests will do their best to bedeck themselves according to the standard you set.  Just know the party you’re throwing, and for whom.  And if Great Aunt Ermingarde calls to ask, ” Just what do you mean by Cocktail attire,” she’s not nagging you, but only trying to answer that question:  What to wear?

 

5.  How you feel like you.  Remember when I said your wedding should represent you & your fiancee on your best day ever?  I couldn’t mean that more.  Even if you’re the poster child for the athleisure movement and this is your one chance to really gussy up, or even if you’re a Tuesday afternoon sequins person and you don’t know if there’s enough Swarovski in the world to out-do your everyday, there’s no reason that the fanciest or most refined version of that person can’t be present.  If your heart is set on being a princess for a day, do it — but be yourself.  If you want to wear a jaw-dropping red dress because white isn’t your thing, do it — because that’s you.  Don’t let your makeup artist, or your mother, or your own self-doubt talk you into wearing something that doesn’t make you feel like the ideal version of yourself.  Who cares if it’s different from what you imagined in high school?!  If, on your wedding day, you were to be asked the compulsory red carpet question, “Who are you wearing?” your answer should resoundingly be:  Me.

 

Now — go forth, shop well, be fabulous.

 

Happy Planning!
Natalie

 

Natalie Newman Locke, the Event Supervisor and a Wadsworth Mansion bride herself, is a seasoned wedding & production professional.  When not creatively writing, photographing weddings, or acting as social media guru, she enjoys sampling wedding cake.

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Focus Is Future (or, How Weddings Are Governed by The Law of Attraction)

I’m not much of a New Age philosphy kind of gal.  Not that I have anything against it, really, it’s just not my particular cup of tea.  But the longer I’m around weddings and the planning stages that precede them, the more I’m convinced that the Law of Attraction is a thing.

For the uninformed, good old Wikipedia defines the Law of Attraction as such:

“…the idea that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts a person brings positive or negative experiences into their life.  This belief is based upon the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from “pure energy”, and the belief that like energy attracts like energy.”

I can’t necessarily speak to the second part, but the first bit about the outcome of experiences being reflective of the energy put into them is a very real occurrence.  And while I think it’s generally true throughout life, it is of course magnified under the glass of a major milestone event like a wedding.

0398To wit:

A recent bride of the Wadsworth Mansion was the essence of relaxed.  Her planning was thoughtfully arranged and specific, but even as we met to go over details a few days before her wedding she seemed to be in a lovely bubble of equal parts calmness, happiness, and reality.  She was very aware that unforeseen things could happen, but she trusted her vendors to do what they were hired to do and keep her day running smoothly.  Lo and behold — her wedding was a breeze, full of life and joy, and not a thing went wrong!  Within a week of her celebration she had written us to to say that her dream wedding had come true and she couldn’t have been more thrilled.  Hooray!

On the other hand, I can recall an occasion that had a marriage ceremony and reception that felt nothing like a celebration.  Try as the bride and groom might for smooth, easy sailing, their families seemed determined to encounter disaster.  I met them for a rehearsal a day or so before the wedding, and even then I could feel a cloud of negativity hanging just overhead; by the time the big day arrived, the cloud had fully descended into a terrible fog of malcontent and cantankerousness.  Although the bride and groom left that night seeming peacefully light, their family’s negativity would soon find them and everyone else involved in the event, re-coloring the entire picture in sad, gloomy hues.  It’s so unfortunate when a murky, merciless attitude prevents others from having the time of their lives.

These two examples are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to reaping what you sow in the garden of weddings.  It’s amazing how we can predict with quite a bit of accuracy the general outcome of an event based on the process leading up to it.  But we can.

And you can, too.  As you plan your wedding, or vacation, or birthday party, or whatever, take a step back and do some honest self-assessment.  If your outlook is positive — even if it’s realistic — your road should be relatively smooth and happy.  If your attitude needs some adjustment, now is the time to find (or create) that silver lining before the negativity gets out of control.  And if the negative influence isn’t you, find a way to redirect, reduce, or remove that person from the process.

 

Happy planning!
Natalie

 

Natalie Newman Locke, the Event Supervisor and a Wadsworth Mansion bride herself, is a seasoned wedding & production professional.  When not creatively writing, photographing weddings, or acting as social media guru, she enjoys sampling wedding cake.

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