Focus Is Future (or, How Weddings Are Governed by The Law of Attraction)
I’m not much of a New Age philosphy kind of gal. Not that I have anything against it, really, it’s just not my particular cup of tea. But the longer I’m around weddings and the planning stages that precede them, the more I’m convinced that the Law of Attraction is a thing.
For the uninformed, good old Wikipedia defines the Law of Attraction as such:
“…the idea that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts a person brings positive or negative experiences into their life. This belief is based upon the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from “pure energy”, and the belief that like energy attracts like energy.”
I can’t necessarily speak to the second part, but the first bit about the outcome of experiences being reflective of the energy put into them is a very real occurrence. And while I think it’s generally true throughout life, it is of course magnified under the glass of a major milestone event like a wedding.
A recent bride of the Wadsworth Mansion was the essence of relaxed. Her planning was thoughtfully arranged and specific, but even as we met to go over details a few days before her wedding she seemed to be in a lovely bubble of equal parts calmness, happiness, and reality. She was very aware that unforeseen things could happen, but she trusted her vendors to do what they were hired to do and keep her day running smoothly. Lo and behold — her wedding was a breeze, full of life and joy, and not a thing went wrong! Within a week of her celebration she had written us to to say that her dream wedding had come true and she couldn’t have been more thrilled. Hooray!
On the other hand, I can recall an occasion that had a marriage ceremony and reception that felt nothing like a celebration. Try as the bride and groom might for smooth, easy sailing, their families seemed determined to encounter disaster. I met them for a rehearsal a day or so before the wedding, and even then I could feel a cloud of negativity hanging just overhead; by the time the big day arrived, the cloud had fully descended into a terrible fog of malcontent and cantankerousness. Although the bride and groom left that night seeming peacefully light, their family’s negativity would soon find them and everyone else involved in the event, re-coloring the entire picture in sad, gloomy hues. It’s so unfortunate when a murky, merciless attitude prevents others from having the time of their lives.
These two examples are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to reaping what you sow in the garden of weddings. It’s amazing how we can predict with quite a bit of accuracy the general outcome of an event based on the process leading up to it. But we can.
And you can, too. As you plan your wedding, or vacation, or birthday party, or whatever, take a step back and do some honest self-assessment. If your outlook is positive — even if it’s realistic — your road should be relatively smooth and happy. If your attitude needs some adjustment, now is the time to find (or create) that silver lining before the negativity gets out of control. And if the negative influence isn’t you, find a way to redirect, reduce, or remove that person from the process.
Natalie Newman Locke, the Event Supervisor and a Wadsworth Mansion bride herself, is a seasoned wedding & production professional. When not creatively writing, photographing weddings, or acting as social media guru, she enjoys sampling wedding cake.