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Frock It To Me

Whether you’ve been dreading or dreaming of it, the time comes in any engagement when you have to answer the age-old question:  What to wear?  Considering that the obvious answer is “something” – – unless of course you’re on a nude beach somewhere (disclaimer: The Wadsworth Mansion has no beach, nude or otherwise) — you’ll want to think through a few things before deciding on the dress, the tux, bridal party attire, or dress code.

 

 

1.  How you want your wedding to feel.  You’ll be referring back to this one all the time.  It is the key to your wedding seeming cohesive.  Your big event should be a reflection of both of you on your best day   ever.  Decide what that looks like.  Season and location are a big part of this; long, lacy sleeves feel a little imprudent on the shore in August, n’est pas?  Once you select a venue and date, which should help guide your vision, you still may want to think of a few adjectives to fill out the daydream:  whimsical & bright, elegant & classic, modern & trendy, understated & unique, warm & casual…  Once you’ve given yourself a basic road map it’ll be much easier to say, “yes, I loved that sleek, barely-there satin number I saw on Pinterest, but y’know it just doesn’t fit with the wintry, happy, storybook vibe I’m going for.”

 

2.  How you plan to move your body throughout the day/night.  Despite the image you’ve conjured up from the picture-perfect, stock-still photos of gowns you’ve been drooling over since the fifth grade, you will be moving.  A lot.  You’ll be sitting, could be kneeling, oughta be dancing.  Select something that makes you feel like a million bucks and allows you to eat dinner!  Keep this in mind as you try things on, and then again as your fittings happen.  Jump up and down, bend over, put your arms over your head; having to tug/pull/adj ust your wedding finery on the big day is a big no — your tailor’s job is to make you feel effortless regardless of action.
This rule also applies to shoes!  Make sure you can comfortably walk on any surface (and PRACTICE! Yes, you!!) so people are wondering over the vision that you are, not the over/under on when you’ll bite it or go barefoot.

 

2a.  How you want others to move their bodies throughout the day/night.  If you want your bridal party and guests to really cut loose on the dance floor, consider issuing them less restrictive attire and toning down the formality of the dress code.  If the effect you’re going for is a little more elegant than eccentric, remember that bending over to pick up a cornhole beanbag might not be the chicest (or easiest) cocktail activity.

 

3.  How individual you want the bridal party to look.  We are — thankfully — far from the era of matchy-matchy, one-note, prom-esque attendants.  Nowadays it’s acceptable to, y’know, be considerate of the people who’ve agreed to stand next to you and populate all those photographs.  Before placing the order on those shiny, cap-sleeved, mustard dresses and the matching vests and bow ties because they go with your fall scheme perfectly, think about the people who have to wear them.  Think of their body types, shades of skin, colors of hair… You want them to feel confident, right?  Maybe you like the look of similar dresses in complimentary hues. Maybe a patterned fabric in a bias cut will be the most flattering on everyone.  Maybe you want these dresses to actually be wearable more than once.  Even if you want them to be wearing the exact same thing from earrings to nail polish to shoes, you’ll still want to dedicate some time in deciding all those elements.  Do unto others…

 

4.  How you know your invitees.  Unless you’re some kind of royalty with a public ceremony (I’m looking at you, Prince Harry), chances are you’ll know all your guests.  (I mean, except for your fiancee’s Great Aunt Ermingarde who hasn’t left her neighborhood since the Nixon administration and is shockingly making the 3-state trek… although even she isn’t “a stranger.”)  But maybe you’re having a remote, intimate ceremony with just family, which probably invites less pomp and circumstance than a fete with 200 of your parents’ nearest and dearest.  Or, maybe you are having a grandly-scaled affair brimming with all your college buddies, which could make a “Creative Black Tie” dress code apropos.  At the end of the day, your guests will do their best to bedeck themselves according to the standard you set.  Just know the party you’re throwing, and for whom.  And if Great Aunt Ermingarde calls to ask, ” Just what do you mean by Cocktail attire,” she’s not nagging you, but only trying to answer that question:  What to wear?

 

5.  How you feel like you.  Remember when I said your wedding should represent you & your fiancee on your best day ever?  I couldn’t mean that more.  Even if you’re the poster child for the athleisure movement and this is your one chance to really gussy up, or even if you’re a Tuesday afternoon sequins person and you don’t know if there’s enough Swarovski in the world to out-do your everyday, there’s no reason that the fanciest or most refined version of that person can’t be present.  If your heart is set on being a princess for a day, do it — but be yourself.  If you want to wear a jaw-dropping red dress because white isn’t your thing, do it — because that’s you.  Don’t let your makeup artist, or your mother, or your own self-doubt talk you into wearing something that doesn’t make you feel like the ideal version of yourself.  Who cares if it’s different from what you imagined in high school?!  If, on your wedding day, you were to be asked the compulsory red carpet question, “Who are you wearing?” your answer should resoundingly be:  Me.

 

Now — go forth, shop well, be fabulous.

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Mailbag #2 (Flower Power)

The Wadsworth Mansion Mailbag is back!  With all the wedding questions and concerns that we handle (I wish I had a nickel for each one), it only seems fair to share and spread the knowledge.  The following are just a few of our true inquiries from the not-too-distant past about all things floral:

 

Tiptoe Through the Tulips
Hello,
My daughter will be getting married there in August, and the flowers are a very important to me.  I know there is a garden on the property where ceremonies happen, which is where [Bride] will have hers.  What flowers will be in bloom then?  I recall you mentioned roses on the tour.  Are there others as well?  Please advise.

Hi [Mother of the Bride] —
Ceremonies in the Tennis Pavilion – where the little, white, columned building is bookended by rose trellises – are lovely, and that will be a perfect place for [Bride] to have hers, too.  The climbing roses there may have a few remaining stragglers in August, but usually the full rose effect is well gone by then.  Our other flowering plants are the giant hydrangeas, which should be white or turning white by August, and they flank the vista just off our terrace.  Since you envision a floral, garden-y atmosphere in the Tennis Pavilion, I have an idea which may work for you despite the season.  Previously we’ve had late summer and fall weddings where the florist has filled out one of the trellises with roses, other flowers, and greenery, with that serving as the ceremony backdrop.  Alternately or additionally, you could have an arbor or chuppah covered in flowers in front of the trellis.  I can point you in the direction of florists who have previously done these sorts of things here if that would be helpful.  Regardless of whether or not you choose to go with any of these options, your daughter’s wedding will most certainly be a beautiful event.

 

Build Me Up, Buttercup
Hey Natalie,
We’ve selected [Florist] to do our flowers, and we told them we want them to put some arrangements on the mantles in the ballrooms.  We’ll be nearby for a tasting next Wednesday.  Can we maybe come by sometime that afternoon to take measurements of the mantles for our florist?  It’ll be good to see the Mansion again, it’s been a little while since we’ve been by…

Hi [Bride] —
So great to hear you’ve picked such a fabulous florist; they were here several times last season, and knowing you and [Groom] I can see why you would select them.  Although you’re welcome to come by next Wednesday anytime before we close at 5:30, I have the mantle measurements to give you right now.  The East Ballroom’s is 9.5″ x 80″, the West Ballroom’s is slightly smaller at 9″ x 78″.  You’re also welcome to use the mantle in the Bar if you like, which is 7″ x 69″.  Some brides and grooms do fairly elaborate mantle decor, while many florists just use (or incorporate) bridesmaids’ bouquets on the mantles — I’ll be excited to see what you all come up with.

 

Orange Blossom Special
Hi again –
I meant to ask you on the phone about colors.  I really like lots of different flowers and want to do like a rainbow theme, but I don’t want it to look bad, lol!  What do other people do?  I just don’t want it to look boring and all the same.

Hi again, [Bride] —
You’ve got a lot going on with wedding planning, so having a little brain hiccup is completely normal!  Most importantly, you should select the flowers and colors that you like — it’s your big day and you should choose whatever makes you happy.  Having options is what it’s all about here at the Mansion 🙂  But since you asked: we’ve seen it all.  Blush, cream, yellow, orange, purple, red, 3 colors, 5 colors, all one color…  It’s completely up to you.  Flowers and decor are the perfect area to spice things up and really make your wedding your own.  If you want more specific guidance, let us know or ask your florist (remember, their name is on it so they will want to meet your expectations of simultaneously lovely and lively flowers).

 

Every Rose Has Its Thorn
Natalie,
Thank you so much for everything at the wedding!  It was the day of my dreams and I can’t believe it’s already over!  I did have a question, though.  [My florist] charged me extra afterwards, and when I asked her about it she said it was because the Mansion made her clean up more than she usually has to.  Can you give me some insight on this?  Everything else was absolutely perfect, so I just want to understand what’s going on.

Hi [Bride] —
You had such an amazing wedding (excellent DJ selection, by the way) and I’m so glad that it was everything you had envisioned!  I wish [the florist] hadn’t decided to tack on additional costs in the end, and I’m happy to explain our policy on flower clean up, and what specifically transpired with your florist.
Our contract states that if rose petals are used they must be picked up by the end of the rental, or the bride & groom will be charged.  We dislike having to deduct such costs from our couple’s security deposits, which is why we discuss our clean up policies and expectations with the florists ahead of time.  I spoke with [your florist] the day before your wedding and told her that it would be her responsibility to clean up any rose petals she scattered.  When she returned at night’s end to pick up her vases and votives, I had to reiterate to her that each vendor is held accountable for their items or debris from their services, and that she must clean up the petals so that a fee wouldn’t fall to you.  She did end up staying to clear the Vista of petals.  Perhaps other venues don’t require their vendors to follow up so thoroughly… but we feel every wedding deserves the Mansion and grounds in pristine condition.
Please let me know if you have any other questions or if I can shed any more light on the matter.  Your wedding was truly beautiful and excellent fun — your dance with your Dad was hysterical — and I can’t wait to relive it again through your photos.  Keep in touch!

 

 

If you have a question you’d like answered about weddings or events, post it in the comments section below.  Maybe we’ll feature it in a future Mailbag Blog!

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Featured Wedding: Haleigh and Ethan, October 16, 2016

It was quite an autumn Wadsworth day for quite an autumn Wadsworth wedding…  Accented with watery blues & lilacs, dusty blushes & pinks, and earthy cranberries & pomegranates, the tasteful details gave the event a rich, romantic feel well-suited to the Mansion in this season.  Haleigh and Ethan’s celebration was teeming with excitement and revelry for their sizable guest list, beginning with the signing of the ketubah under a tent on the terrace.  Immediately commencing was a traditional Jewish ceremony by the Tennis Pavilion trellis, followed by an evening full of happy cocktailing, dining, and dancing.  Below is the team of carefully selected vendors that contributed to the success of this momentous occasion and made it happen beautifully:

 

Event Planning and Design: Creative Concepts by Lisa
Photographer: Kelsey Combe Photography
Catering: David Alan Hospitality Group
Kosher Catering: Abel Caterers
Tent Rentals: CT Rental
Officiate:  Rabbi David Small
Florist: Sharon Elizabeth’s
Hair and Make-Up: A Touch of Color Make-Up By Sharyn Scully
DJ/Music:  Hank Lane/MTM Events
Furniture:  Gather and Lounge
Lighting:  Shindig Lighting
Hotel:  Inn at Middletown
Transportation:  Gateway Limousine
Bridal Boutique:  Mika Inatome
Men’s Tuxedo:   Generation Tux  Online
Invitations:  Blacker and Kooby

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PureWow Names Wadsworth Mansion Most Gorgeous Venue in CT!

National digital publication PureWow has made it officially official:  The Wadsworth Mansion is the Most Gorgeous Wedding Venue in Connecticut.  And, really, who are we to argue?  Editors whittled down their list to highlight just one venue from each of the 50 states and Washington D.C.

“Featuring 100 acres of beautiful Beaux Arts style, this estate is the former summer home of Colonel Clarence S. Wadsworth.  It’s also the best spot for a quintessential — and totally private — New England wedding.  (Yep, you can splurge on a horse-drawn carriage.)”

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While we can’t disagree with the accolade, this write up and photo are only the tip of the proverbial iceberg of just how lovely weddings are here.  If you’d like to see all the historic beauty in person, a private tour is but a click or call away.

See what kind of company we keep in the full article: The Most Gorgeous Wedding Venue in Every State.

 

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